Coaching Resistant Clients

coaching resistant clientsWhat if a coach is asked by a company to coach an employee, and that employee resents being given a coach?  While coaching is more often seen as a bonus, some employees resist coaching when told they are being given a coach.  How do you handle this as a coach?

Ideally, before the employee is told they will have a coach, there is an opportunity to discuss how the news about a coach is given to the employee.  A positive approach is letting the employee know that the company values them and their work so is choosing to invest in them to increase opportunities and results with a coach.

If an employee is informed they are required to participate in coaching, or that it is a way to save their job, or is advised that it is for remedial purposes, chances are they will be resistant to coaching.  In this situation, the coach has the task of moving past the resistance to develop a productive relationship.  What coaching questions are helpful in this situation?  Here are a few examples:

  • Given that your company has invested in a coach for you, what do you think are the reasons?  Then ask: What are the positive outcomes your company wants?
  • What are the pros and cons of having a coach?
  • How do you want your confidentiality protected?
  • What do you want out of coaching?
  • How do you want to work together so that the coaching is beneficial to you?

The goal is to give the resistant client the opportunity to become aware of the benefits of coaching and their opportunity to maximize the possibilities from coaching services.

Cathy Liska

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Most blog posts here are written or curated by Cathy Liska, Guide from the Side®, CDP, MCC.

Cathy is CEO/Founder of the Center for Coaching Certification, CCC. As Guide from the Side®, she is a sought-after trainer and coach with over 30 years of experience in business management and ownership. Cathy built her diverse team at CCC that includes trainers, customer service, and coaches. She was Co-Leader for ICF’s Ethics Community of Practice, on the Leadership Team for the review and updating of the Code of Ethics in 2024, and active in the Ethics Water Cooler. To ensure she stays current in related areas of expertise, Cathy has earned the following: ICF’s Master Certified Coach (MCC), Certified Coach Trainer, Certified Consumer Credit Counselor, Certificate of Excellence in Nonprofit Leadership and Management, Grief Support Group Facilitator, Certified in the Drucker Self-Assessment Tool, Certified Apartment Manager, Certified Civil and Family Mediator, and Certified in DISC.

Cathy’s clients range from attorneys to corporate executives, government to nonprofit, entrepreneurs to children, under or unemployed to newly retired. She specializes in communication, management, conflict, and leadership. Her personal mission statement is “People.” Cathy is known for her passion to serve others so they achieve the results they want.

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