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Preparing for the Next Job Opportunity by Strengthening Resilience

By Chi Whitley from JobHero — https://www.jobhero.com/ 

Resilience, the ability to recover and re-engage, is an important skill for someone who is Career Resilience Infographicchanging jobs.  In the previous blog, I gave the first step, here are the next two.

  1. Turn Negative Emotion into Positive Action

Oftentimes clients can get down on themselves. Perhaps something traumatic at work happened or they are still reeling from a toxic work environment and feel ashamed, depressed, or unwilling to move forward. Recognize it makes sense to feel worried and depressed by what occurred in their previous employment and ask them how much time and energy they want to invest in those emotions. Use that negative emotion and turn it into motivation.

  1. Create Actionable Career Goals

If you have not heard of or implemented S.M.A.R.T (Specific, Measurable, Actionable, Relevant, and Time-based) goals into your coaching practice, explore and experiment with it. The great thing about SMART goals is that they can be applied to any time frame. If your client is finding it difficult to take the next step in their career, then have them do a SMART goal with a week or day timeline. If your client is considering what they want to do long-term have them write down their SMART goals for the next three, five, or ten years. For other tips on how to build career resilience check out Job Hero’s guide on career resilience.

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Preparing for the Next Job Opportunity Starts with Assessing Skills

By Chi Whitley from JobHero — https://www.jobhero.com/ 

Career resilience is built by continuously preparing for unexpected job loss, change, or for Career Resilience Infographicwhen the next opportunity arises. Career resilience also entails having your resume and cover letter up to date for any openings with your current company or another one. Like many skills, career resilience must be strengthened and developed.

As a career coach, it is your job to help clients develop their career resilience. This is done in three steps: knowing their abilities, turning negative emotion into positive action, and creating goals. Below you will find several ways to help clients build their career resilience – the first is here and the next two will be in the next blog post.

  1. Take an Inventory of Skills

Take note of what your client does best in their current role and previous positions. If your client is having trouble coming up with skills, have them consider what they enjoyed most in their roles — typically, our favorite skills go hand in hand with what we enjoyed doing most at work. Also, have clients consider both hard and soft skills.

After you and your client assess their skills, have them, go and update their resume and begin to write a sample cover letter. Make sure they highlight these soft and hard skills in both documents to portray their capabilities.

For those of you who have completed coaching certification, you will either refer clients elsewhere for resume writing or will offer that as a service separate from the coaching.

 

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Toward, Internal, Proactive

How often do people describe their goals by explaining all the things they don’t want?  Pretend you are a travel agent and I come to your office to book a trip.  You ask me where I want to go.  I proceed to tell you all the destinations that I have no interest in visiting.  While you may get a sense of dislikes or where I have already been, do you know where to book the trip to now?  That will require you to ask where I do want to go. Toward, Internal, Proactive

How often are goals really for someone else?  Many people will set a goal based on what they think others want, what helps others, or because they are afraid of a consequence.  They will be motivated in the short term and burn out in the long term.  It is when people set goals because of the personal significance for themselves that they are strongly motivated for the long term.

How often do people wait for things to change so they can have what they want?  If waiting, how much influence do they have on the eventual outcome?  It is so important to consider what can be done, where there is control, and how to proactively move forward.

Whether coaching a client or setting your own goals, be sure to specifically define what is wanted, personal meaning, and what actions will be taken.

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Changing Priorities

Clients change their priorities.  For some, simply exploring what they do want in all areas of their life creates awareness of different priorities.  Tools help clients self-assess what they say is important versus where they put their time and energy.  Clients may be working on goals and circumstances change so their goals change.  Clients may discover they are less than interested in doing the work for what they thought they wanted.  Whatever the reason, priorities change.  Right now, we are experiencing more change than usual because of the circumstances. Changing Priorities

Imagine traveling along a road – your life journey.  You come to a place in the road where it divides and now you must choose which road to continue along based on which is your priority.  You make a choice and before long arrive at a Y in the road where you again must choose a priority to follow.  You realize that the previous choice you made led to this choice, and the choice you make now will determine future forks in the road.  You wonder about going back and testing the other road.  You also want both choices in front of you and are afraid of missing out.  Because staying still isn’t an option, you must choose.  How will you choose?

When faced with competing priorities or the priorities change, what happens?  As coaches, we often partner with clients who change their priorities.  We ask them about their reasons and explore their new priorities.  If priorities change frequently, we notice and invite them to reflect on the observation.  How often do we coaches consider reasons, explore the new priorities, and notice frequent changes for ourselves?  Take time to consider your own priorities and changing priorities!

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Habits and Routines

What are your habits that serve you well?  What habits do you have that hinder you?  What are routines that work well?  What are routines that limit?  Explore these questions for yourself.  Make a list of the various habits and routines and note whether they are beneficial or getting in the way.  It is often fascinating to lay this out on paper because it is a revelation. Habits and Routines

For example, routines include what time you get up, what you do in the morning, your daily schedule, what you do in the evening, etc.  Habits include exercise, nutrition, self-care, interacting with others, and work processes.

Consider which routines and habits serve you well and schedule accordingly to continue.  Consider which routines and habits are limiting and decide what you want them to be instead.  Plan time to design the change.  Imagine the outcome you want to be thinking about what you will see, hear, and feel.  Plan reminders for yourself and schedule new routines and habits.

Because change is a process over time, set up routine check-ins with yourself on your progress.  Evaluate how it is working, what to adjust, and how to continue making progress.  Be sure to include time to acknowledge yourself too for your efforts and successes!

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Focus on What You Can Control

So much has changed over the past year that many are overwhelmed.  Some talk about high-stress levels or being sad or fighting with friends about the changes.  Then they feel stuck and are unsure of where to even start in terms of dealing with everything. Focus on What You Can Control

There is a story of a young child walking along the beach with their grandparent.  Along the beach are hundreds of starfish that have washed ashore.  The young child is picking them up and tossing them back into the water.  The grandparent asks the child about what they are doing.  The child explains that the starfish will die in the hot son if left there so it is saving them by tossing them back into the water.  The grandparent says, “you can’t possibly save them all!”  The child leans over, picks up another one, tosses it in, and says, “I saved that one.”

While there may be so much more to do than seems feasible, you can start with one small thing and progress.  You can make a difference in your life and in the lives of others.  Where you’re your efforts make a difference?  What do you control?  Put your energy where you will make a difference.

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Lessons from 2020 and Looking into 2021

During 2020 the world changed and how we all responded varied in a big way.  We learned to work from home, home school, socially distance, get innovative in terms of earning a living, reinvent careers, and more.  We experienced an impact from uprisings and considered our own role in terms of social justice.  We debated politics, how the pandemic was handled, and the impact of the protests.    Lessons from 2020 and Looking into 2021

Where are we now?  The political change, workplace change, family change, and social change we are experiencing are all new realities.  We have learned about ourselves, our families, our friends, our colleagues, and our society during this time.  We are stronger for it.

Looking into 2021 we now have a choice – we can go with the flow or we can choose what we want and be intentional going forward.  Going with the flow can be easy and, just like the old saying, failing to plan is planning to fail.  So be intentional!  Given where you are at now, your opportunities and resources, where do you want to be in 1 month?  3 months? 6 months? 1 year? 2 years? 3 years?  Consider your personal care, your family life, your social life, your friendships, your career, your finances, and all other activities that are of value.  Evaluate what is important and how to make it happen!

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The Power of Words

by Dr. Phildra J. Swagger – www.combinedexpertise.comDr. Phildra J. Swagger

When you know better, you do better.

You may recall the childhood rhyme, “Sticks and stones may break bones, but words will never hurt.” This seemingly simple adage was passed on by our parents as a way of protecting us from bullies and people who said unkind things to us.  Through hindsight, I have learned that this rhyme is neither true nor a protective measure.  Even when good people who do not understand the power of words have good intentions, words can have adverse or unintended negative results.  Accepting the concept, “words will never hurt” creates a mindset that allows harmful subliminal messages to go unchecked far too long.  It may rob an individual of their voice and lead one to become submissive to unkind people or situations that potentially prevent them from becoming their full happy and healthy selves.  This unawareness can be true for both the coach and the client.  Using the power of words to create positivity must be practiced by both and it starts with the coach.

Words directly impact our thoughts, how we perceive people and situations as well as influence our behavior.  In the coaching arrangement, using powerful words can be achieved in two key steps.  First, co-create with the client regarding what they want to achieve.  That means co-create forward-focused goals that speak life and positivity into their plan. Second, empower the client by asking and fully exploring how they want to think and feel.  As the coach, do not be afraid to challenge the client to state what they want rather than what they do not want.  This technique can encourage an incredibly positive powerful effect on the mind.  For example, consider what to ask if you are coaching a client who states their goal is weight loss.  Instead of saying they “would like to lose 50 lbs.,” positive forward-focused language restates the goal as “I will weigh X lbs. and/or wear a size Y by Z date.”  Now the client has a goal and something positive to look forward to instead of the dreaded drag of losing 50 lbs. The same approach can be applied as they operationalize their goal.  As a case in point, consider these replacement phrases:

  • Instead of “I don’t have time to work out.” use “I can create a schedule or routine.”
  • Instead of “Don’t eat fast food.” use “I will make healthy food choices.”
  • Instead of “Stop drinking soda.” use “Water fuels my body. I enjoy water. Water quenches my thirst.”
  • Instead of “Exercise is hard.” use “Working out makes me feel strong.”

At its core, positivity and positive language are both about self-care.  Self-care is what we learn to do for ourselves.  We can learn and work with our clients to speak positivity into our lives and every situation.  Our words have the power to build others up or tear them down.  Using positive language will improve self-confidence, optimism, communication, and relationships. When working with clients on self-care, positive self-talk is one tool they can use to achieve their stated goals.  After all, the closest mouth to their ear is their own.  Learn to use positivity to create greatness for yourself and your clients!

 

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The Joy is in the Journey

by Deletha Assenmacherhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delethaassenmacher/Deletha Assenmache

I have been told that when my parents chose my name, they envisioned it on a brass nameplate mounted on a mahogany office door. They wanted the best for me and taught me to work hard and have a goal; advice which has manifested in what I define as success in my education, career, health, finances, and relationships. While the results look rosy from a high level, a lack of appreciation for the steps along the path led to periods of impatience and frustration as an anxious blur of “to do’s” streamed constantly in my head. Delaying celebrations until the goal is achieved caused me to live for tomorrow and miss the significance of today.

Being present and appreciating today requires understanding that all things are temporary. The dark is followed by the light. Today may not be going well, and tomorrow may be better. When things are good, enjoy them because tomorrow may look different. Nothing is permanent. A realistic, positive outlook is key to daily happiness. This is not ignoring reality with syrupy, forced cheer that says through clenched teeth “everything is fine.” It is feeling the full range of emotions, acknowledging them, letting them pass, and then choosing thoughts and actions that feel good.

Positivity is learned and our brains can be re-wired to perceive adversities as opportunities to slow down, reevaluate, and appreciate a sunset or smell the scent of fresh rain. Regular gratitude practices, journaling, positive affirmations, and meditation re-wire our brains to create positive pathways that replace negative ones.

It is empowering to know that positivity is a conscious choice, takes practice, and can be learned. I now intend to find the blessing in each circumstance despite the ups and downs and twists and turns life brings. Appreciation for the journey highlights the splendor of each day and creates quiet satisfaction of a life well-lived. My parents were right. Goals are important and give our lives direction; satisfaction and joy are truly in the journey.

 

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Hindsight is 20/20 – Positivity in 2020!

by Amy Gamblin – www.HopeOnSolidGround.com Amy Gamblin

A question I posed with multiple clients this year:  “What do you have to be positive about in 2020?”

Positivity in 2020?  On the surface level, this almost seems like a contradiction in terms.  2020 has been a difficult year for so many.  Understandably so.  With the pandemic, racial and social injustice conversations, political debates that have torn people apart, hurricanes, wildfires, murder hornets – for goodness sake!   The list goes on and on.  There are so many people wishing 2020 was over – like it has been a bad dream that you wake up from and “poof” – all of a sudden things are different.

Well, wait.  Think for a moment.  What is there to be positive about in 2020?

  • Perhaps you have rediscovered a passion that you once had and weren’t able to take time to nourish before and then you had that time in 2020.
  • Perhaps you thought about the love of your family and friends and you intentionally sought that out with deep and meaningful connections in 2020.
  • Or maybe you had an opportunity to learn new skills, read new books, and further your personal or professional development in 2020.
  • Or what if you took some time to “chill” and binge-watch shows that you wanted to watch that made you laugh out loud, be silly, or encouraged you to think about your own life.

Yes, hindsight is 20/20, and positivity in 2020 is a mindset to nurture.

When I asked the question to my clients, “What do you have to be positive about in 2020?” here are some of the answers they gave: liberation, clarity, focus, gratitude, joy, family, personal development, life.”

 

What is it for you?  What do you have

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