The Challenge: Shift from Aggressive to Assertive

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aggressive communicator blogAn aggressive communicator easily expresses their opinion.  It is natural for aggressive communicators to advocate for their own ideas.

An aggressive communicator easily expresses their opinion.  It is natural for aggressive communicators to advocate for their own ideas.  Aggressive communicators are fast thinkers and quick to respond – sometimes too quick.  30% of people are primarily aggressive in their communication style.

Aggressive communicators often think out loud so during coach training practicing and further developing listening skills is essential.  Coaching certification teaches coaches to model clear, direct, and respectful communication.  In addition to modeling effective communication, coaches partner with their clients to enhance the client’s communication skills in other interactions.  This is done by asking powerful coaching questions such as:

  • How are your comments perceived by others?
  • How do you want to be perceived?
  • How does your impact on others influence your long-term possibilities?
  • What difference does your approach make?
  • How can you effectively say what you want?
  • What is a respectful approach?
  • How do you invite others to engage in the conversation?
  • How do you benefit when others engage too?
  • What is important for others when talking with you?
  • How can you create a win/win?
  • What are the benefits to you of effective communication?

Ideally these questions create awareness for aggressive clients around the impact they have on others and what that means for their own long term opportunities.  30% of people are primarily aggressive in their communication style.

Cathy Liska

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Most blog posts here are written or curated by Cathy Liska, Guide from the Side®, CDP, MCC.

Cathy is CEO/Founder of the Center for Coaching Certification, CCC. As Guide from the Side®, she is a sought-after trainer and coach with over 30 years of experience in business management and ownership. Cathy built her diverse team at CCC that includes trainers, customer service, and coaches. She was Co-Leader for ICF’s Ethics Community of Practice, on the Leadership Team for the review and updating of the Code of Ethics in 2024, and active in the Ethics Water Cooler. To ensure she stays current in related areas of expertise, Cathy has earned the following: ICF’s Master Certified Coach (MCC), Certified Coach Trainer, Certified Consumer Credit Counselor, Certificate of Excellence in Nonprofit Leadership and Management, Grief Support Group Facilitator, Certified in the Drucker Self-Assessment Tool, Certified Apartment Manager, Certified Civil and Family Mediator, and Certified in DISC.

Cathy’s clients range from attorneys to corporate executives, government to nonprofit, entrepreneurs to children, under or unemployed to newly retired. She specializes in communication, management, conflict, and leadership. Her personal mission statement is “People.” Cathy is known for her passion to serve others so they achieve the results they want.

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Publications: Coaching Perspectives (a series of books with chapters by coach training graduates) https://www.coachcert.com/resources/recommended-reading/coaching-perspectives-series-by-the-center-for-coaching-certification-and-more.html

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