An Invitation: What do you think? Ethical Challenges Series

A coaching client invites the coach to their wedding.  The coach has completed their coach training and is a member of the ICF and accountable to the Code of Ethics.  

Possible Responses:

  • The coach accepts the invitation and attends the wedding.
  • The coach declines the invitation without explanation.
  • The coach says they have a schedule conflict and cannot attend.
  • The coach invites the client to discuss the pros and cons of their attendance.
  • The coach explains that it might be perceived as the coach benefitting from the relationship and for that reason they will not accept.
  • The coach accepts and gives the client a gift card in the amount of the cost of their attendance.
  • What else?

Refer to the ICF Code of Ethics:

21) Avoid any sexual or romantic relationship with current clients or sponsor(s) or students, mentees or supervisees. Further, I will be alert to the possibility of any potential sexual intimacy among the parties including my support staff and/or assistants and will take the appropriate action to address the issue or cancel the engagement in order to provide a safe environment overall.

AND https://coachingfederation.org/credentialing/coaching-ethics/icf-code-of-ethics/

Q: If my client invites me out to a social engagement, may I accept?
A: Accepting the engagement would be appropriate if:

  • the coach and client both think that the coaching relationship would not be impaired
  • the coach can remain objective in the coaching meetings

If however, the coach finds it difficult to maintain the boundaries of a coaching relationship with the client, then the coach has the option to terminate the relationship and refer the client to another coach. A good guideline is that whatever the nature of the relationship prior to beginning coaching is where it should remain throughout the duration of the coaching arrangement.

How do you recommend it be handled?

Cathy Liska

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Most blog posts here are written or curated by Cathy Liska, Guide from the Side®, CDP, MCC.

Cathy is CEO/Founder of the Center for Coaching Certification, CCC. As Guide from the Side®, she is a sought-after trainer and coach with over 30 years of experience in business management and ownership. Cathy built her diverse team at CCC that includes trainers, customer service, and coaches. She was Co-Leader for ICF’s Ethics Community of Practice, on the Leadership Team for the review and updating of the Code of Ethics in 2024, and active in the Ethics Water Cooler. To ensure she stays current in related areas of expertise, Cathy has earned the following: ICF’s Master Certified Coach (MCC), Certified Coach Trainer, Certified Consumer Credit Counselor, Certificate of Excellence in Nonprofit Leadership and Management, Grief Support Group Facilitator, Certified in the Drucker Self-Assessment Tool, Certified Apartment Manager, Certified Civil and Family Mediator, and Certified in DISC.

Cathy’s clients range from attorneys to corporate executives, government to nonprofit, entrepreneurs to children, under or unemployed to newly retired. She specializes in communication, management, conflict, and leadership. Her personal mission statement is “People.” Cathy is known for her passion to serve others so they achieve the results they want.

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