The level of success in achieving goals is tied to how the goals are defined, and the specific choice of words. For example, the word “try” is frequently used when describing a new goal or plan, and experience demonstrates that it generally means it is not going to happen. Trained coaches have the tools to work with a client in creating the language of success.
When a coach hears a client say they will try, the coach simply asks the client how they plan to do it, and creates a focus on action steps that move the client forward. When a client uses other self-limiting language, such as, “I can’t” or “I should” the trained coach hears it, recognizes the impact, and asks questions until the client moves to language that is empowering and proactive.
Through coaching, developing a habit of using the language of success is easily done. It is possible to learn about which words influence the outcomes through the study of neuro-linguistic programming; this is part of good coach training programs. Try it or do it: The value of creating this habit within coaching is that the language of success is the client’s language because the coach asks questions until the client finds their own words. This process enhances application and future successes beyond the coaching sessions.
