{"id":9856,"date":"2022-12-01T11:02:02","date_gmt":"2022-12-01T11:02:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/?p=9856"},"modified":"2022-09-03T19:03:44","modified_gmt":"2022-09-03T19:03:44","slug":"charismatic-versus-toxic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/charismatic-versus-toxic\/","title":{"rendered":"Charismatic versus Toxic"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Who do you know that you consider toxic?\u00a0 Reflect for a moment on how they talk, what they talk about, and the level of interest people have in what they are saying.\u00a0 Typically, their language includes: don\u2019t, doesn\u2019t, should, could, would, might, try, need, but, however, can\u2019t, won\u2019t, always, or never. <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-9857 alignright\" src=\"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/24-Nov-Charismatic-versus-Toxic-scaled.jpg\" alt=\"Charismatic versus Toxic \" width=\"148\" height=\"222\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/24-Nov-Charismatic-versus-Toxic-scaled.jpg 1707w, https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/24-Nov-Charismatic-versus-Toxic-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/24-Nov-Charismatic-versus-Toxic-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/24-Nov-Charismatic-versus-Toxic-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/24-Nov-Charismatic-versus-Toxic-1024x1536.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/24-Nov-Charismatic-versus-Toxic-1365x2048.jpg 1365w, https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/24-Nov-Charismatic-versus-Toxic-40x60.jpg 40w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 148px) 100vw, 148px\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Who do you know that is charismatic?\u00a0 Reflect for a moment on how they talk, what they talk about, and the level of interest people have in what they are saying.\u00a0 They are more likely to use <a href=\"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/positiveness\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">positive<\/a> words: now, because, easily, naturally, aware, experience, realize, expand, create, opportunity, imagine, brilliant, enlighten, focus, visualize, peaceful, tranquil, balance, calm, and empower.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is the difference between the two?\u00a0 The toxic person typically uses negative language and talks about problems.\u00a0Within a short time, people lose interest in what they are saying.\u00a0 The charismatic person commonly uses positive language and talks about solutions and the future.\u00a0 People are interested and stay interested.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being toxic or charismatic is habit-forming and it is a choice.\u00a0 Being toxic is easier.\u00a0 If someone is toxic, they may choose to stay that way be simply not choosing to do something different.\u00a0 Being charismatic takes effort.\u00a0 The charismatic person made a choice to be positive and thinks about what and how they communicate.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Which do you want to be?\u00a0 What level of effort are you willing to put into being they way you want?\u00a0 To make the journey toward being charismatic easier, work with a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/training.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">trained coach<\/a>!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Who do you know that you consider toxic?\u00a0 Reflect for a moment on how they talk, what they talk about, and the level of interest &hellip; 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