{"id":9853,"date":"2022-11-21T09:06:35","date_gmt":"2022-11-21T09:06:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/?p=9853"},"modified":"2022-09-01T14:10:50","modified_gmt":"2022-09-01T14:10:50","slug":"4-biggest-communication-mistakes-and-how-to-fix-them","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/4-biggest-communication-mistakes-and-how-to-fix-them\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Biggest Communication Mistakes and How to Fix Them"},"content":{"rendered":"

Effective communication<\/a> improves lives at home, makes work easier and more interesting, and facilitates all our interactions.\u00a0 It is easy to be in a hurry, forget to pay attention to how we communicate, and fall into bad habits. \"4<\/p>\n

The most common mistakes include:<\/p>\n

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  1. Poor Listening \u2013 it is ironic that while most of us think we are good listeners, the norm is that we hear one word in seven. We interpret more from what we see than what we hear.\u00a0 It is also common that we simply tune-out certain people \u2013 sometimes our most loved ones. \u00a0Alternatively, we listen for what we want to hear.\u00a0 Other tendencies include remembering our own experiences instead of listening<\/a>, analyzing instead of listening, or planning our response instead of listening.<\/li>\n
  2. Negative language \u2013 negativity tends to shut people down. While some of the words we use are obviously negative, others limit without our even realizing it.\u00a0 For example, saying should, could, would, might, try, need, or don\u2019t.<\/li>\n
  3. Telling \u2013 when we are telling people what to do or how to do it, they hear very little. Most will tune us out.\u00a0 Often telling is seen as demanding or micro-managing.<\/li>\n
  4. Lack of awareness of different styles \u2013 we have different styles of thinking and talking. Some of us are more logic-focused and others are more emotion.\u00a0 70% of us are more passive and 30% are more aggressive.\u00a0 Some talk about what they see, others about what they feel, and others about what they hear.\u00a0 Background and culture also play into how things are said and understood.\u00a0 If we ignore how someone else talks and interprets, what we say will be unclear.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    What you can do to fix these mistakes:<\/p>\n

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    1. Poor Listening \u2013 choose to listen with interest and for the purpose of understanding the other person. This sounds simple and initially it will take effort.<\/li>\n
    2. Negative language \u2013 pay attention to the words you use and say things in positive, confident language.<\/li>\n
    3. Telling \u2013 instead of telling, start asking questions. People really can figure out their own answer and when they do, they are more likely to follow-through.\u00a0 Think about it \u2013 how often do people do what you tell them versus doing what they determine?<\/li>\n
    4. Lack of awareness of different styles \u2013 this starts with simply noticing and paying attention to how other people talk and listen. To really elevate skill in this area does involve learning about different personality and learning styles then flexing to people accordingly.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Where can you learn more about communication and people skills?\u00a0 Coach training<\/a>.\u00a0 That is your single best source for developing listening skills, positive language, questioning skills, and awareness of different styles plus how to adjust.<\/p>\n

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