{"id":9522,"date":"2022-03-17T11:03:18","date_gmt":"2022-03-17T11:03:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/?p=9522"},"modified":"2022-08-16T18:51:55","modified_gmt":"2022-08-16T18:51:55","slug":"the-impact-of-a-coachs-words","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/the-impact-of-a-coachs-words\/","title":{"rendered":"The Impact of a Coach\u2019s Words"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>During <a href=\"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/training.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">coach training<\/a> we often joke that learning coaching is learning a new language.\u00a0 This is true because the words we normally use and the words we use as a coach are so different and make such a difference! <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-9523 alignright\" src=\"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/The-Impact-of-a-Coachs-Words.jpg\" alt=\"The Impact of a Coach\u2019s Words\" width=\"227\" height=\"222\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/The-Impact-of-a-Coachs-Words.jpg 650w, https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/The-Impact-of-a-Coachs-Words-300x294.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/The-Impact-of-a-Coachs-Words-61x60.jpg 61w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 227px) 100vw, 227px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Consider the difference between these two questions:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>What might you want to try?<\/li>\n<li>What will you do?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>In the first question the word \u2018might\u2019 is full of doubt and implies the possibility of inaction.\u00a0 Similarly, the word \u2018try\u2019 implies the potential for either inaction or failure.\u00a0 In the second question, asking \u2018will\u2019 demonstrates believe in the action happening and by extension being successful.<\/p>\n<p>Here is another example with two questions:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Why?<\/li>\n<li>What are the reasons?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>When asking \u2018why\u2019, the person being asked moves into justifying and becomes defensive.\u00a0 When asking \u2018what are the reasons\u2019, the person asked is invited to share their thinking.\u00a0 The first leads to explanation whereas the second invites reflection; the difference is in how it is perceived and felt.<\/p>\n<p>One more example:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Would you want to do it?<\/li>\n<li>What will you do?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The first questions is closed; it can be answered with yes or know.\u00a0 Asking \u2018would\u2019 demonstrates doubt in whether the action will be taken.\u00a0 Conversely, asking \u2018what\u2019 keeps the question open.\u00a0 Using the word \u2018will\u2019 demonstrates belief in the action being taken.<\/p>\n<p>While subtle, word choice over time impacts confidence, positivity, and pro-activity.\u00a0 Hence <a href=\"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/training.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">coaching certification<\/a> including information on word choice.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>During coach training we often joke that learning coaching is learning a new language.\u00a0 This is true because the words we normally use and the &hellip; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":9523,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[131,470,471,16,40],"tags":[691,48,85,213,1770,1769,1768,260,1077,1385],"class_list":["post-9522","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-coaching-program","category-coaching-resources","category-coaching-skills","category-coaching-stories","category-tools-and-techniques","tag-choice","tag-coach","tag-coach-training","tag-conversation","tag-impacts","tag-might","tag-the-impact-of-a-coachs-words","tag-training","tag-why","tag-words","latest_post"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9522","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9522"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9522\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9524,"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9522\/revisions\/9524"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9523"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9522"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9522"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9522"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}