{"id":9093,"date":"2021-04-19T09:04:08","date_gmt":"2021-04-19T09:04:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/?p=9093"},"modified":"2022-08-31T16:25:31","modified_gmt":"2022-08-31T16:25:31","slug":"voice-lessons","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/voice-lessons\/","title":{"rendered":"Voice Lessons"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Marie Guilloto Stuppard \"Marie<\/em><\/p>\n

www.alkemecoaching.com<\/a><\/p>\n

Heart pounding, palms sweating, shallow breathing, and that churn, that fist in the stomach.\u00a0 All signs of the primal fight or flight response to something, someone, or a combination of circumstances.\u00a0 That something?\u00a0 An uncomfortable interaction.\u00a0 That someone could be anyone.\u00a0 Afraid of the fight, you flee.\u00a0 You walk away thinking that you should have, could have \u2013 done what?\u00a0 Said something?\u00a0 Taken action?<\/p>\n

These are the daily feelings, thoughts, and actions of millions of people.\u00a0 This happens at home, in the office, and in social settings.\u00a0 Many of us are afraid to speak up, give feedback, and perhaps offend or alienate those we interact with on a regular basis.\u00a0 So, we exist and make nice while suppressing our true selves, our thoughts, and our feelings.\u00a0 Worse still, some of us wonder if we are being too sensitive.<\/p>\n

Losing your voice means abdicating your power and not taking control of and managing your interactions.\u00a0 It happens subtly, gradually, and you convince yourself that you are being the bigger person.\u00a0 You find yourself vacillating between being the victim of someone else\u2019s anger or the fixer of another\u2019s problems and bristling with anger when others impose on your time.\u00a0 One day you realize that you have lost yourself and live to accommodate the needs of others.\u00a0 The story you tell yourself makes you feel better about who you are and drives your reactions to others.\u00a0 You quietly accepted and normalized behaviors that fit your internal narrative.<\/p>\n

If this all sounds familiar, all is not lost.\u00a0 Read \u201cVoice Lessons\u201d in Coaching Perspectives X<\/a> and learn how to regain your footing and find your voice.\u00a0 Learn the tips and techniques for analyzing your own behavior and identifying the patterns that trigger a particular response.\u00a0 \u201cVoice Lessons\u201d will empower you to use your voice to put you first in your own life.<\/p>\n

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