{"id":9055,"date":"2021-04-01T11:02:33","date_gmt":"2021-04-01T11:02:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/?p=9055"},"modified":"2022-08-31T16:29:08","modified_gmt":"2022-08-31T16:29:08","slug":"influence-versus-control","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/influence-versus-control\/","title":{"rendered":"Influence versus Control"},"content":{"rendered":"

Paul Kawkabany – https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/paul-kawkabany-b7b2a811a\/<\/a>\"Influence<\/p>\n

One of the most significant questions in our lives that interfere with our thoughts, emotions, behaviors, relations, and tolerance capacity is how much we feel we have control.\u00a0 What can I control? \u00a0What don’t I control?\u00a0 How controllable are our thoughts?<\/p>\n

If I notify you: Don\u2019t think about red apples for 30 seconds, what will represent your initial thought? \u00a0Of course, it will be a red apple, and maybe a basket of red apples, as it is really hard to control our thoughts.\u00a0 This will upset us because we have the idea of controlling our thoughts, instead of directing our thoughts.<\/p>\n

Think about how we can influence our way of thinking. \u00a0Influencing is not controlling; it is about understanding and embracing these reflections and finding a way to use or convert them in terms of achieving our goals.<\/p>\n

During coach training<\/a> we learned a powerful tool with the affirmation story wherein the client chooses the thoughts they want to focus on and consistently accesses them.\u00a0 Other methods that we can use to acknowledge our circle of control and circle of influence include making a list, a table, or a journal.\u00a0 Be sure to organize concerns and where you have influence:<\/p>\n