{"id":9035,"date":"2021-03-15T09:02:53","date_gmt":"2021-03-15T09:02:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/?p=9035"},"modified":"2022-09-10T19:56:50","modified_gmt":"2022-09-10T19:56:50","slug":"the-language-of-limiting-beliefs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/the-language-of-limiting-beliefs\/","title":{"rendered":"Language of Limiting Beliefs"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Limiting beliefs are beliefs that inhibit us from our full potential.<\/span>\u00a0 <\/span>They constrain us by merely thinking them.<\/span>\u00a0 <\/span>Limiting beliefs are about ourselves, our identity, others, or the world in general. \"The<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Examples of some common limiting beliefs are simple, everyday statements:<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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I should\/shouldn\u2019t or must\/ mustn\u2019t:<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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We ARE bound by the law.<\/span>\u00a0 <\/span>We are NOT bound by our should or must.\u00a0 For example, we may say, \u201cI should clean the house every day.\u201d\u00a0 Saying \u201cshould\u201d makes it less likely to happen and we have not broken any laws anyways. \u00a0We may figure out that the task takes precious time away from something more productive.\u00a0 Changing our language by eliminating \u201cshould\/shouldn\u2019t\/must\/mustn\u2019t\u201d frees us to be in the moment and decide what is most important and productive at any given time.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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I can\u2019t:<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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In saying \u201cI can\u2019t\u201d we limit ourselves.<\/span>\u00a0 We waste our potential completely by just giving up.\u00a0 In a book called THE SPARK by Chris Downie,<\/a> he tells the story of a baby elephant tethered to a stake.\u00a0 It cannot break free as a baby.\u00a0 As a full-grown elephant the small stake will not hold it. The elephant does not even try to break free.\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 It tried and tried until it\u2019s leg was torn and raw.\u00a0 As a baby it could not break free.\u00a0 As a grown elephant, it possessed the strength to break free.\u00a0 Because the elephant had the limiting belief that it could not break free, it did not even try. <\/span>Choosing to look for options and find solutions happens when we change \u201cI can\u2019t\u201d to \u201cHow can I?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Always\/never:<\/b><\/span><\/b><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Saying these particular words is extremely limiting because they are so quantified as to not allow for even one difference.\u00a0 As a note, they are also rarely accurate.\u00a0 Saying,<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>\u201cI\u2019ll never get the job\u201d limits.<\/span>\u00a0 <\/span>Instead ask, \u201cWhat new training<\/a> will I take?\u201d \u00a0Saying, \u201cI\u2019ll always fail\u201d limits.<\/span>\u00a0 <\/span>Instead ask, \u201cHow will I improve?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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During <\/span>coach training<\/a> we learn to ask a client questions when they use these words, also called Meta Models.\u00a0 It is one way we partner with clients so they move forward.<\/span><\/p>\n

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