{"id":7371,"date":"2017-08-21T09:05:54","date_gmt":"2017-08-21T09:05:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/centerforcoachingcertification.com\/coachingblog\/?p=7371"},"modified":"2017-07-21T15:47:39","modified_gmt":"2017-07-21T15:47:39","slug":"limiting-language","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/limiting-language\/","title":{"rendered":"Limiting Language"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Pete Liska <\/em>https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/peteliska\/<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n

Because we all process so much information we have learned ways to manage the information.\u00a0 This is helpful on a day-to-day basis and at the same time can prevent us for exploring further or considering different solutions.\u00a0 During coaching certification we learned that the things we say to process and manage information are organized as Meta Models<\/a>; there are three kinds: Deletions, Generalizations, and Distortions.\u00a0 This information comes from neuro linguistic programming research.<\/p>\n

Deletions are when information is missing.\u00a0 With deletions, only part of the information is given during a conversation, such as when you ask someone how they are doing and their response is simply, \u201cGood.\u201d\u00a0 Examples of deletions include: \u2018I was out\u2019, \u2018He hates me\u2019, or \u2018This doesn\u2019t work\u2019.\u00a0 Each of these statements leaves out information which in turn limits understanding.\u00a0 As a coach ask questions: Where?\u00a0 What gives you that impression? or How are you arriving at that conclusion?<\/p>\n

Generalizations are when you apply one experience to the next. \u00a0Examples include, \u2018I always\u2019, \u2018I never\u2019, or \u2018I can\u2019t\u2019.\u00a0 These phrases are rarely accurate and limit consideration of other possibilities.\u00a0 In coach training we learned to ask questions: When haven\u2019t you? When have you? or What if you can?<\/p>\n

Distortions are changing information based only on your own perceptions.\u00a0 Examples of this include, \u2018You won\u2019t care\u2019, which is actually an attempt at mind reading, or \u2018He makes me mad\u2019, which is implying someone else controls your feelings.\u00a0 During the coaching certification we discussed questions including, “What is a different possibility?” or “What specifically influences how you feel?”<\/p>\n

How is this important when you are a coach?\u00a0 When a client uses Meta Models, phrases like the above examples, this limits their own thinking, possibilities, and thus outcomes.\u00a0 Coach training<\/a> with the Center for Coaching Certification<\/a> (CCC) \u00a0prepared us to ask questions for complete information.\u00a0 This creates awareness and opens up the opportunities for clients to take action or proactively change based on what they want.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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