{"id":6862,"date":"2016-09-01T11:03:26","date_gmt":"2016-09-01T11:03:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/centerforcoachingcertification.com\/coachingblog\/?p=6862"},"modified":"2023-12-13T22:23:41","modified_gmt":"2023-12-13T22:23:41","slug":"the-challenge-shift-from-a-focus-on-dont-want-to-do-want","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/the-challenge-shift-from-a-focus-on-dont-want-to-do-want\/","title":{"rendered":"The Challenge: Shift from a Focus on Don’t Want to Do Want"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"don't<\/a>Imagine going to a travel agent and asking them to book a vacation.\u00a0 When the travel agent asks where to and the answer is a litany of places to exclude from the possibilities, then how can the agent book the trip?<\/p>\n

Think about someone you know who wants to lose weight.\u00a0 One consideration is that losing a set number of pounds is focusing on the negative or the problem with a definition of what is not wanted.\u00a0 Alternatively, if they say how much they do want to weight or what size they want to be, then they are focused on a goal<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The same applies with setting goals in a coaching relationship.\u00a0 Imagine completing your coaching certification and then coaching your first client.\u00a0 Then imagine that client telling you about what they don\u2019t want.\u00a0 How do you help a client achieve something if they themselves are unsure of what they want to achieve?\u00a0 It is the coach\u2019s job to ask questions so the client defines the goals they do want to achieve.\u00a0 For example, ask:<\/p>\n