{"id":6583,"date":"2016-05-09T09:00:38","date_gmt":"2016-05-09T09:00:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/centerforcoachingcertification.com\/coachingblog\/?p=6583"},"modified":"2026-01-09T22:49:13","modified_gmt":"2026-01-09T22:49:13","slug":"telling-limits","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/telling-limits\/","title":{"rendered":"Telling Limits"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Telling<\/a>During coach training the biggest paradigm shift for many is that instead of giving advice, helping means empowering people<\/a> to discover their own answers.<\/p>\n

In our society we have this idea that telling works and that people just want the answers.\u00a0 Often people even say they just want the answer.\u00a0 Then when given an answer they most often think about it until they find their own answer, discard it, or on occasion test it.\u00a0 Consider: was the answer really what they wanted?\u00a0 What is the benefit when people figure out their own answer<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Often teenagers discount the wisdom of their elders and instead find their own way.\u00a0 This continues throughout adulthood.\u00a0 While many think telling the answer is helpful, in truth telling interferes with learning, implementation, follow through, growth, and ultimately confidence.<\/p>\n

Here is a challenge for you: listen deeply to the conversations around you and consider how much telling is done versus empowering.\u00a0 Then track the follow through when people are told versus empowered.<\/p>\n

Think about. It this way – old school management was to tell.\u00a0 Ultimately managers were often dictators or micro managers.\u00a0 It is common knowledge now that at best this is ineffective.\u00a0 People want the space to work independently.<\/p>\n

The growth of coaching and coaching certification is a demonstration of the interest in learning to empower.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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