{"id":6475,"date":"2016-04-04T15:04:23","date_gmt":"2016-04-04T15:04:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/centerforcoachingcertification.com\/coachingblog\/?p=6475"},"modified":"2016-02-12T02:38:58","modified_gmt":"2016-02-12T02:38:58","slug":"positive-versus-negative","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/positive-versus-negative\/","title":{"rendered":"Positive versus Negative"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\"positive<\/a>(from Coaching Perspectives V<\/a> \u2013 6 of 11)<\/p>\n

Move now to the personal lives of the brothers and reflect on how their thoughts over time influence their feelings and behaviors now.\u00a0 Brendan was a popular party guy with lots of girlfriends.\u00a0 Kevin was the stable one with a solid marriage and a nice group of friends.\u00a0 Brendan shied away from commitment because he focused on short-term gratification and playing hard.\u00a0 Kevin thought about the positive side and was happy so he felt good about his life.<\/p>\n

Brendan\u2019s friends said, \u201cAh let\u2019s just forget work and go have a good time.\u201d\u00a0 The girls he dated asked, \u201cWhat is your hang-up with commitment?\u201d\u00a0 Brendan thought to himself, \u201cYeah, I\u2019m just having a good time.\u00a0 Why settle down?\u00a0 I have my freedom instead.\u201d\u00a0 When Brendan got the flu, he stayed home alone.\u00a0 Overall Brendan felt restless.<\/p>\n

Kevin\u2019s friends commented on his marriage saying, \u201cYou are really a lucky guy.\u201d\u00a0 His wife told him, \u201cI am glad you are in my life.\u201d\u00a0 Kevin thought to himself, \u201cI am very fortunate.\u201d\u00a0 Then Kevin was diagnosed with cancer.\u00a0 People said to him, \u201cWow, I guess the good do die young.\u201d\u00a0 Kevin chose to stay with his positive focus and said to himself, \u201cI have lots of support.\u201d\u00a0 He talked openly with his wife about the diagnosis.\u00a0 His friends helped him research treatments.\u00a0 Kevin\u2019s doctor answered his questions and worked with him on the treatment plan.\u00a0 Kevin\u2019s friends helped him and his wife through the process.\u00a0 Kevin is now cancer free and feels the whole experience was a blessing because he is stronger.\u00a0 Kevin learned to be aware<\/a> of his priorities and learned how much his friends really cared.<\/p>\n

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Coaching Notes<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/strong>Focus on opportunities, possibilities, and the positive, proactive approach to making it happen.\u00a0 Consider that Return on Investment or ROI<\/a> studies on coaching often cite qualitative benefits that include improved relationships and increased confidence.\u00a0 In each coaching session use language that reinforces the positive with confidence.\u00a0 For example instead of saying, \u201cWhat might you do?\u201d ask, \u201cWhat will you do?\u201d<\/p>\n

Hints for Your Research: Harvard Business Review<\/a> provides research that instead of success providing happiness, happiness creates success.\u00a0 A number of studies look at the benefits of positivity on health and wellness.\u00a0 Ultimately, being positive improves opportunities.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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