{"id":6469,"date":"2016-03-24T17:00:42","date_gmt":"2016-03-24T17:00:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/centerforcoachingcertification.com\/coachingblog\/?p=6469"},"modified":"2016-02-10T15:23:10","modified_gmt":"2016-02-10T15:23:10","slug":"word-choice-matters","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/word-choice-matters\/","title":{"rendered":"Word Choice Matters"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"word<\/a>(from Coaching Perspectives V<\/a> \u2013 3 of 11)<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Rejoin the two brothers now.\u00a0 Both did well in school.\u00a0 For Brendan the biggest challenge was accepting the authority of teachers and administration.\u00a0 Kevin wanted more of a challenge as he found school easy.<\/p>\n

When Brendan\u2019s teachers gave instructions, he heard them tell him what to do and how to do it so he only partially listened.\u00a0 He was consistently reminded, \u201cYou should follow the instructions.\u201d\u00a0 The more he was given direction, the more Brendan repeated to himself, \u201cI hate being told.\u201d\u00a0 Each time he was told, Brendan mumbled to himself, \u201cI can figure it out myself.\u201d\u00a0 The teachers thought he was somewhat rebellious and considered it typical of boys.\u00a0 The more Brendan became frustrated the more the teachers told him what to do, which in turn reinforced his negative thinking<\/a>.\u00a0 Brendan distanced himself from authority figures.<\/p>\n

Kevin was reminded by teachers to focus more or that, \u201cIt comes easily to you so it is important you apply yourself to complete it.\u201d\u00a0 While Kevin realized that it was important to apply himself, he thought to himself, \u201cI am smart and I want more of a challenge.\u201d\u00a0 Over time Kevin began to find ways to challenge himself.\u00a0 He timed his reading and worked ahead in the math book to see if he could figure it out on his own before having it explained.\u00a0 During class, he paid attention to how the teacher explained it to find differences from what he had thought.\u00a0 He learned to challenge himself.<\/p>\n

The way he was told fostered resentment in Brendan and his irritation grew.\u00a0 Kevin heard supportive language. \u00a0He learned acceptance for circumstances, acknowledged his own abilities internally, and developed a habit of challenging himself to learn and grow.<\/p>\n

Word choice influences how what is said is understood and processed.\u00a0 Some words limit and other words empower.\u00a0 While most of us are unaware most of the time of limiting words, the impact remains.<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Coaching Notes<\/strong><\/p>\n

Focus on the future in coaching sessions.\u00a0 If a client is giving the negative story or focusing on what they don\u2019t want, ask questions to create the shift to focus on the positive and what they do want.\u00a0 As a coach, model positive, proactive language.\u00a0 Ask questions so that clients use positive, proactive language.\u00a0 The positive language supports positive thinking<\/a> which in turn supports success.<\/p>\n

It is unfortunate that it is easier to flow with the negative and critical.\u00a0 When the focus is positive, supported by positive language, brain function improves and people achieve more.<\/p>\n

Hints for Your Research: A number of books explore how words influence conversations, thinking, and outcomes including those by Luntz, Cialdini, Newberg, and Waldman to name a few.\u00a0 Dr. Emoto experimented with the impact of words on water that was then frozen.\u00a0 Caples studied persuasive writing extensively.\u00a0 Bobbins blogged on how many negative words there are in the English language.\u00a0 Neuro Linguistic Programming<\/a> provides a body of knowledge on the impact of words.\u00a0 Canfield shared research on how humans process more than twice the amount of negative as compared to positive.\u00a0 There is an old saying that garbage in is garbage out and the garbage is the negative.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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