{"id":11477,"date":"2023-04-03T09:02:04","date_gmt":"2023-04-03T09:02:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/?p=11477"},"modified":"2023-03-15T19:53:46","modified_gmt":"2023-03-15T19:53:46","slug":"what-happens-if-a-coach-tells","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/what-happens-if-a-coach-tells\/","title":{"rendered":"What Happens If a Coach Tells?"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_11478\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-11478\" style=\"width: 900px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-11478 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/3-Apr-What-Happens-If-a-Coach-Tells-.jpg\" alt=\"2 woman are sitting talking to a third person.\" width=\"900\" height=\"600\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/3-Apr-What-Happens-If-a-Coach-Tells-.jpg 900w, https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/3-Apr-What-Happens-If-a-Coach-Tells--300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/3-Apr-What-Happens-If-a-Coach-Tells--768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/3-Apr-What-Happens-If-a-Coach-Tells--90x60.jpg 90w, https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/3-Apr-What-Happens-If-a-Coach-Tells--480x320.jpg 480w, https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/3-Apr-What-Happens-If-a-Coach-Tells--420x280.jpg 420w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 900px) 100vw, 900px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-11478\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">What Happens If a Coach Tells?<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Core to <a href=\"https:\/\/coachingfederation.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">coaching<\/a> is holding the client as their own best expert.\u00a0 The coaching process is specifically and intentionally one where the client reflects, explores, considers, and ultimately chooses their own approach, strategies, actions, etc.\u00a0 This is so very different from what we are accustomed to professionally \u2013 typically our value, worth, and career advancement are based on our knowledge and being the go-to person for information and answers.\u00a0 The paradigm shift in becoming a coach is moving to asking the questions so the client finds their own answers.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Consider this scenario: A <a href=\"https:\/\/www.coach-123.com\/coaching-services\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">coaching<\/a> client is underperforming and at risk for losing their job.\u00a0 The client explains the deficiency to the coach.\u00a0 The coach has an idea for correcting the deficiency and shares that idea with the client.\u00a0 The client says it is a great idea.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At this point, the possible outcomes include:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Client simply does not use the idea. This is common because there is no ownership in the idea.\u00a0 The client then may feel guilty or a failure for not following through.<\/li>\n<li>Client uses the idea, and it does not work. This possibility is increased because at the first bump in the road, because there is no ownership in the idea, it is easy to simply stop and blame the coach.\u00a0 Had it been their idea, they are more likely to have figured out how to continue moving forward.<\/li>\n<li>Client uses the idea, and it works. While on the surface this sounds great, in reality it creates an unnatural dependency on the coach as the source of solutions while undermining the confidence of the client.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How did the coach cause harm in each of these possible outcomes?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>By giving the answer, the coach blocked client development because there was no further exploration and thinking, nor an opportunity for the client to figure it out them self.<\/li>\n<li>Undermined confidence. Because the answer came from someone else, the client\u2019s confidence in their own ability to figure it out is undermined.<\/li>\n<li>Possible blame. If the idea doesn\u2019t work, the client might resent the coach.\u00a0 If they don\u2019t use the idea, the client might blame the coach for a bad idea that wasn\u2019t going to work anyways.<\/li>\n<li>Possible unnatural dependency. When answers come from elsewhere, people become dependent on outside sources for their answers.<\/li>\n<li>Increased the risk of the client losing their job. Because the first two possible outcomes are essentially a failure for the client to correct the deficiency, and are highly likely outcomes, the coach added to the risk of the client losing their job.<\/li>\n<li>Violated the agreement for coach services. By giving the answer instead of coaching, the coach violated their agreement with the client \u2013 and a sponsor too if they are involved.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The ideal scenario in the above circumstance is to hold the client as fully capable and as their own best expert.\u00a0 This means the coach stays in the role of coach and asks questions and effectively partners with the client as they explore and figure it out for them self.\u00a0 The high ROI of coaching is based on the client figuring it out for them self and making their own choices.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Core to coaching is holding the client as their own best expert.\u00a0 The coaching process is specifically and intentionally one where the client reflects, explores, &hellip; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":11478,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[470,471,16,40],"tags":[590,1684,77,48,50,2206,2207,1763,421,82,2205,2204],"class_list":["post-11477","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-coaching-resources","category-coaching-skills","category-coaching-stories","category-tools-and-techniques","tag-choices","tag-circumstances","tag-client","tag-coach","tag-coaching","tag-following-through","tag-idea","tag-outcomes","tag-process","tag-roi","tag-tells","tag-what-happens-if-a-coach-tells","latest_post"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11477","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11477"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11477\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11479,"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11477\/revisions\/11479"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11478"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11477"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11477"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.coachcert.com\/coachingblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11477"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}